sigh... i give up. The Altima does not have a relay for the tail lights like in the link, so i tried rewiring it from the combination switch on the side of the steering wheel. i figured out what all of the wires in there do, and the right lo-beam headlight uses the same wire as the fogs. This way the fogs cannot be turned on without the headlight. Looking at wiring diagrams, i know exactly where i need to get to bypass this, but the wires are going too deep into the car, and im afraid to get in over my head.
In the Versa, i cannot find relays for the fog lights and tail lights, so again i can't follow that link. Also, i imagine the versas combination switch on the steering wheel is wired the same as the altima.....
i accept temporary defeat on this one. if i cant figure it out by spring, ill take another stab at the altima.
thanks for the help everyone!